Preparing for Marriage> Preparing for Wedding
One thing that quarantine was surely successful at was forcing couples to decide whether they wanted to get their married life going despite circumstances; or put it off for the sake of the dream wedding day at a time TBD.
But, does the spectacular wedding day contribute anything meaningful to the following marriage? All we are capable of taking from our wedding day are the photographs, memories, and a spouse. Right? So what good is all that buildup to the perfect wedding day if it comes to an end and two days or weeks or months later you find yourself frustrated and confused about what you’ve gotten into and how you could be so unprepared.
These thoughts make necessary a brief look into what should be taking place alongside those glorious table displays you’ve been planning.
Don’t start thinking this is a waste of time, “we know each other well enough, so on, blah blah…” You need to deliberately dig up issues that are going to arise in a healthy setting instead of being shocked when they inevitably show up later. Too many people ride their emotional high into marriage, don’t learn to communicate or know their soon to be spouse as well as they could have and it rapidly evolves into a painful cohabitation, devoid of the ability to effectively communicate and listen. You know you don’t want that, go to counseling.
There is undoubtedly plenty more to cover. In summary, just communicate as much as possible about everything. In the end, wedding planning 18 hours a day for 3 years won’t help you in the vastly more important realm of being prepared as possible for marriage. Enjoy the process of getting excited to enjoy your big day together, (and make sure you get fantastic photos and film!) but more importantly get ready for the many days that follow, for better or for worse.
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